It is hard to come up with soothing
words for a friend who is going through much pain and anguish. Are words such
as, “I have been there before; I know how it feels; Be Patient; Everything will work out fine, you'll see”, any comfort
to the heart of the listener; a listener searching for solace, for any remedy
to ease her despair.
Facing the loss of a special needs son I
gather is a great tragedy to most people. My opinion comes from responses of well-meaning friends and acquaintances when I share a brief moment of my past.
It was a trying time indeed, but it was never difficult nor burdensome. The minute we ask “Why
me?” we have placed ourselves down the road of negativity. Ask instead, “What have
I to learn from this situation placed in front of me that will most surely
improve my standing as an individual”.
Believing in this questioning of yourself
brings about a whole new view of your predicament. Looking at it in an
affirmative, positive light leads to a turn around on your emotional handling
of the circumstances faced with. It instills in the individual the perseverance
to trudge ahead through thorny bushes, armed with confidence that the scabs and
bruises will heal. Scars may remain but as
painless reminders, leaving us with determination that no matter our future
struggles, we can and will always pull through.
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